Gender Rules in Romani Culture

So a few years ago my mom and I watched a show in BBC called "My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding" and were absolutely surprised by the culture we observed.  While those who oppose feminism might argue that women are not actually forced to stay in the home cooking, cleaning and rearing children, such practices are alive and well in the Romani, Irish and English Traveler communities.  The women in this culture are expected to be perfectly pure and chaste before marriage, and even going on a date and holding hands with/kissing a boy are viewed as immodest and immoral.  However, the men are permitted to (and sometimes even encouraged to) have affairs with gadjo/gorger girls, words they use in Europe and America to denote those of non-gypsy ancestry.  Girls can marry as early as 16, several of which do not even complete high school much less consider higher education.  Families are typically large, and women spend their days cleaning, cooking and raising children.  Houses that are less than pristine are said to reflect negatively on the wife, indicating that she is somehow lazy or incompetent and that her husband, in turn, was foolish for choosing her.  (One of the American Romani women confessed to having purchased a 1,000+ dollar vacuum to really make sure her house was spotless).  Girls and women are expected to stay in peak shape and always look their best, or they are viewed as lazy and undesirable (from what I saw on the show, the girls who were not as "attractive" as their counterparts were often mocked by both males and females rather harshly).  However, the men are not expected to look appealing, as their role is to earn the money and run the family, goals which are not directly impacted by their physical appearance.  Watching this show presented me with the interesting challenge (that I bet many others struggle with) of accepting and appreciating cultural differences while not necessarily agreeing with said practices.  (Especially since many marriages ended fairly early in divorce, leading to lots of stress for both the bride and groom at a typically young age; I felt really sad that they experienced so much struggle so early in life.)  However, the women are by no means passive in every matter, as fights between women break out fairly frequently on the shows; in fact, one was proclaimed one of the most violent brawls aired on live TV: (don't watch this if violence or fighting triggers you)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7xoBXL9S1jk&oref=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D7xoBXL9S1jk&has_verified=1