Fraternity Formals

I am attending Phi Delt formal this weekend and our discussions in class really got me thinking about the whole greek system especially with formals. Getting invited to this formal is considered a gift from these boys to us (the girls attending). They act like they are doing us some huge favor. In order to go with them we have to decorate a cooler for them which has cost me over 100 dollars and at least 10 hours of time. We also have to fill it up with alcohol for them. Additionally we stay in a hotel with them and there is only one bed. I just feel like this system makes the girls feel like I must hook up with him and give him whatever he wants because he invited me to this super fun formal and I must serve him with alcohol and decorate a cooler for him that costs a lot because I am so lucky to have gotten invited. Don't get me wrong I am excited to go, I just feel like some girls get too caught up in these events and feel as if they have to do everything the boy asks of them because he invited her to his formal. When I was talking to one of my friends about how the cooler and filling it up was a lot of work they just responded to me saying well we do a lot for you guys to, we invited you. It really hit me when he said that that these guys really think it is like some huge favor they are doing us by taking us to a hotel in Nashville and getting us all drunk and trying to hook up with us. Like yes it is going to be a fun weekend but don't flatter yourself that you are so cool that we should feel so blessed to have even gotten considered to be asked to be their date.