http://modernwomandigest.com/cheating-good-relationship/#more-952
Attatched is an article called "Why Cheating is Good for Your Relationship". There are a lot of things I'd like to comment on in this article, but I'll just point out one that emphasis the idea that subtly emphasis the idea that men and women are too different to have real, constructive conversations (especially when in a relationship).
They claim that women were once encouraged and prized in relationships to
"Be clean, pure, sexually rigid, trusting, don’t nag, laugh at all his
jokes, clean up after him, be a good cook, and most importantly – do not
cheat on him with another man. These are all good values and habits
we’re told will attract the right kind of man into our lives, men who
will provide for us and our potential children"They then went on to say that women are now not always home-makers, virgins, and often sleep around because pure motives dont produce the "right results" anymore. They then went on to say that people are cheating left and right (i felt they were implying this was due to the fact that women do not have the same priorities and/or expectations). This bothered me because I felt people have obviously always cheated, probably more men than women because they were able to leave the house without question more often. Either way, they go on to apologize to women for the fact that cheating is in man's blood. They say that this is why cheating is the best option for a happy relationship for a woman. One point they claim is that the best defense is a good offense, and that is why you have to cheat before men exercise their inherent desire to cheat. Anyway, this article annoys me in a couple ways but the most inherent ones are that it ignores women's sexual nature, it assumes women and men cannot have calm conversations about their sexual natures, and it encourages women lowering their moral standards are why relationships have not been working properly (as if cheating is a 21st century invention, and men had no part in the evolution of women's sexual expectations in media)
Really interesting article and analysis. The position that it is in men's blood to cheat just seems as ludicrous as the idea that all men are raving sex addicts. I have doubts in monogamy and personally favor a more open style of relationship, but the author's position is just too strange for me to really grasp. You do a good job of dissecting it.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with everything you pointed out. It also seems to me that this article is attempting to justify an immoral act by claiming that all humans are inherently immoral and incapable restraint. I have seen this argument made many times for a variety of issues, including domestic violence and sexual assault, and I always find it not only completely incorrect, but very depressing that it is still a common view.
ReplyDeleteVery interesting article. I really agree with everything you brought up. Especially when you say that men probably cheat more than women. Mainly back in the day, when women were to stay at home and be house mothers.
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