Let's Talk About Sex

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In class on Tuesday, we discussed a little bit about virginity and purity and the myth that tends to accompany both of these concepts, especially when examining the patriarchal society that defines what virginity is and what purity is with a great amount of neglect towards actually educating individuals, especially adolescents, about these two terms. I brought these concepts and the definition of what sex is up to my friend, and he sent me this video because this is what he believes it entails.

To make a criticism of the video, I am not pleased with the title, "If You’re Not Married and You Do This—It’s Dangerous. The Reason Why Will Make Total Sense After You Hear This." Similar to our abstinence talk in class, I think the title has this air to it that "sex is bad and if you have sex it is dangerous and something bad will happen."

Once I began watching the video, I did become very intrigued by a number of things that the man in the video says. I was pleased to see that he acknowledges that sex is a consensual act between two individuals according to our cultural definition of it, and I was even interested in the fact that he did address that it is ridiculous to assume that sex HAS to be between one man and one woman and that this couple HAS to wait until marriage to have sex simply because of what the Bible says. I thought that was a very realistic approach coming into the topic. At the same time, however, I think he still put a stigma on sex that it is a more meaningful act when it happens between a married couple without giving much consideration to people have sex outside of marriage, practically saying that it is not as fulfilling as sex between a married couple.  

After our discussion on virginity and purity, and after we have viewed the video about women being sexualized, I am interested as to what some of you think about this video. Is sex really so black and white that it is either a cultural view or biblical view, or are there so many more grey areas to the concept than this video is letting on? And does this video alone serve as a proper educational tool for adolescents? I thought he had a great argument about the type of connection two individuals can have when they have sex, but at the same time, I feel like he judges and belittles couples that do not wait without giving much of a liberal decision about it.